How To Get Over A Break Up

 

 

If you are reading this page, then I know you are going through a tough time at the moment and you are thinking how to get over a break up. You see there is many things that can be done to get over a break up but only some of those things will help you achieve the goal you are looking for.

 

 

 

If your goal is to  move on with your life then the you will have to do certain things different at different stages, if your goal was to get your ex back then you will have to put in place a strategic plan to follow certain steps at a certain time and do and say the following things to get back in the heart of your ex. How many times have you seen a family member, a friend or even a celebrity on television somehow turn things around and get there relationship back on track when it once seemed domed . This happen because either by accident or strategically they done the right things at the right time.

 

 

 

Due to our research the higher percentage of people searching “how to get over a break up” are looking for an answer on how to get there ex back, so here at relationship advice direct we have put together some tips on how to get over this situation to get yourself achieving the goal you are looking for.

 

 

 

The first thing you need to do is stop everything thing that you was doing before, I know if you have searched the web on this subject and even if you check the pages or posts on this website they we all say the same thing. The first stage is to stop doing whatever you have been doing because it is not working and causing more damage and pushing your ex further and further away. Have you been doing the following things

 

 

 

Trying to convince your ex that you are the love of there life

 

Would you apologize for almost everything

 

Promise to change for good to suit there needs

 

Even beg them to take you back

 

 

 

This all stops today or you will never get over the heart break,

 

Next step is to now get some of your dignity back and stop smothering your ex, space between you and your ex is now needed, I know it will be hard but it is important that you listen and follow this important step. No more texting, calling, turning up at there place. It all has to stop. You see the reason we do this is to start to make your ex not only miss you but to think “wait there, what are they up to”. Now that you are not calling and smothering them any more, they are not only starting to miss you they are starting to think and wonder what are you up to. You know how a mind works so you can imagine all the things that are going through they mind because the same things are going through yours. So now you are slowly tipping the balance back to even grounds.

 

 

Now you have to decide and this is vital, do you want to get back with your ex or do you want to move on with your life without your previous partner. Once you have decided these things you will then do  2 different things.

 

 

 

If you want to carry on without your ex then you should simply keep doing the things in the first two steps but now ramp it up a bit, start hanging out with your friends, start talking to new people, work harder on your work project, whatever is needed to keep your mind focused on something else so you don’t go back.

 

 

 

If you want your ex back then you have to do as followed, after a time apart now your ex will be missing you and now its time for you to send them a letter, this letter has to be hand written, not a long 4 part text message or even an email. It has to be an old fashioned pen to paper hand written letter. In this letter your overall goal is to tell your ex that you have accepted the break up and you are willing to move on. You are doing this to give your ex the image of that you are happy to move on and that you can be happy with out them. There are several Psychological factors involved here

 

 

 

 

 

1. Humans have a tendency to take things for granted

 

2. Humans will fight ten times harder to save from losing something…than to gain something.

 

3. Humans tend to want what they can’t have.

 

4.Humans tend to want even more…what is JUST out of their grasp

 

 

 

One there is a certain structure you letter has to be in and some key mistakes you need to avoid to make this powerful strategy effective but here you have the basics and now start going forward with your life. If would like to know more about what to say and how to structure your letter correctly please sign up to our newsletter and you will find out the key elements needed in your letter and finally you would know how to get over a break up